Astrology is an interesting phenomenon, labeling people with a certain character traits and a symbol, associated to their astrological sign. For people that are not familiar with astrology, or simply don’t care for it lol, to quickly explain, your sign ins calculated by the month and date that you were born. There are personality traits, personal habits, or interest, that express or pertain to your Sun Sign. I state Sun sign because we all have two signs, a Sun Sign which is how you outwardly come across, and your Moon sign which represents your needs and your wants, but that’s a whole different blog post, if I get into that lol.
In my experience, I’ve met people from all walks of the spectrum, from non-believers, to prideful sign representors. Throughout my life, I grew up being told I was a Pisces, and not knowing a damn thing about what that actually meant. Here and there, I would attempt to learn more about my sign, but I would end up beyond confused, whenever I researched and observed that my birthdate wasn’t included in the date ranges listed for a Pisces, but for a Aquarius. February 19th, is either shown as the last day of Aquarius season, or the first day of Pisces season. It wasn’t until a few years ago, my best friend, an astrology fanatic, educated me on the Aquarius-Pisces cusp, which essentially means that my birthday falls in between the transition of these two signs. After being educated on the cusp, I became very interested in learning more about this unique sign placement.
Now to be honest, a lot of the characteristics, I’ve read about about the cusp sign, has really resonated with me, but one in particular was the character trait and flaw of being overly idealistic. This is a trait that I was blinded too, completely unaware of, but honestly, its the truth.
Everyone has their own personalities, opinions and even ideals. I to, have my own strong beliefs and ideas, but I’ve been in several scenarios in my life, where I’ve subconsciously expected people to subscribe to my ideals. For example, when it comes to having and forming friendships with others, I tend to have a very ideal view on friendships, and in the past anytime a friend has challenged my ideals, many times it has left me feeling betrayed, or dissociated.
With billions and billions of people in the world, it’s important that we remind ourselves, that everyone family, friends, acquaintances, or other we may encounter, all have their own ideals, and their own beliefs that make them who they are. The moment you strive to have people see and support the power of your ideals, the more you become a prisoner to them. Everyone thinks differently, moves differently, and as individuals, walking in our own personal journeys, its important for us all to be reminded of the things we should stop expecting from other people.
See people for who they are, not for who you want them to be.
I think when you are able to value others in your life for being themselves, it creates a better understanding of that person, and a genuine appreciation for who they really are. When you attempt to see someone for who they are, you will learn more about that person, their perspectives, their views, their differences, their challenges, their triumphs, their fears, and their life experiences. Nowadays, there are a lot of people that invite others into their lives, or maintain relationships with others, because of what they can gain or get from them. Examples such as Dependence, social networking or detachment issues, are all ways a person can view someone for who they want them to be. In all honesty, would you want someone to see you for who they wanted you to be, and not for who you are? How is that a fulfilling feeling, and how is that friendship, or relationship a genuine one?
In life, everyone isn’t going to trust your vision, or understand your journey
In life, our dreams, aspirations, fears, and life experiences can influence who we are, who we want to become, what our individual purposes are, and our individual journeys. Due to this, it’s fair to say that everyone isn’t going to trust your vision, and understand your journey. People aren’t always going to understand your career path, and why it means so much to you. They won’t always understand what kind of person you want to become, or even trust your way of getting there. Everyone isn’t going to understand your fears or doubts, your mistakes, your setbacks, your victories and its impact on your journey and growth. Your journey won’t always be understand, because in reality people aren’t obligated to understand it. This is a lesson I had to learn, whenever I would tell people my entrepreneurial ideas, or visions, and get questioned on them. It would honestly make me feel really insecure in the moment, like damn why don’t they understand? Then I had to realize people have their own journeys that they are trying to make sense of, or trying to be patient with, “especially us millenials, who are simply trying to get used to the “adulting” world.
Everyone is not going to move, how you move
Now, this is a statement, that I express internally to myself often. This statement is reassuring because it reminds you, in moments when someone does something that you wouldn’t personally do, or don’t quite understand, or perceive as going against your ideals, that everyone is different all around, and that “everyone is not going to move, how you move”. And I’m not insinuating that the way you move Jen better than others by anyway shape or form. What I’m really trying to say is, there will never be another you, and that’s a thought you must embrace. Even your closest friends won’t move how you move. There may be things that your friends do, or even your significant other does that you may not understand, and that’s okay. What’s important is you appreciate the people in your life for who they are, but focus on yourself, learn more about yourself, and become confident in how you move.
You won’t always be understood, and that’s okay
Being misunderstood for some reason has always been given such a negative connotation, as if you are a societal outcast, because of others inability to understand you. We live in a society where people try so hard to be understood by others, just to refrain from being viewed or labeled as a misunderstood person. Why do humans care about being understood by society? Society is not an intimate place. My friend once told me, “It’s when we turn to society, when we really start to lose ourselves”, and thats too real. Let me ask you all a question, what means more to you, for others to understand you, or for you to understand you? And really think about that, and be honest with yourself. No matter how much others know about you, or you express to others, show to others, post on your social media pages, and share with others, you still won’t always be understood. No matter how much you try to be understood by everyone, we all will face moments in our lives, where others won’t understand us, and I’m here to tell you, that is absolutely okay.
What point resonated with you the most and why? What can you add to this list? What are other things we as humans should stop seeking from others? Let’s continue to chat below! #Subscribe & #Share